It has taken a long time and still I don’t always get it right; but I’ve learned to tell the difference between when my feelings are hurt or when I’m angry. My feelings are most easily hurt by someone saying something to me or about me that is unkind, untrue, or true but harshly stated. That last one – the truth offered up with an edge – that’s the one that is most hurtful. That’s the one most likely to elicit from me an angry reaction. Perhaps that’s why it is said: “The truth hurts.”
And then there is the hurt I inflict on others – the things I say to or about people that is unkind, not entirely true, or true but harshly stated.
There’s a lot of hurt in the world. Injustice leaves a swath of hurting people, and so does prejudice, and privilege when it is distributed inequitably. We have learned that the wounds of war occur in ways that damage the body and hurt the soul.
Some say to move on – get over your hurt and live your life. Others say you have to face it, feel it, and perhaps get help to get past it.
Remember that one of the dangers of hurt left untended is that it will rise up and hurt someone else.
May you be healed of hurt today and live the day without hurting someone else.
A blessed Tuesday.