Hurt People

It has taken a long time and still I don’t always get it right; but I’ve learned to tell the difference between when my feelings are hurt or when I’m angry. My feelings are most easily hurt by someone saying something to me or about me that is unkind, untrue, or true but harshly stated. That last one – the truth offered up with an edge – that’s the one that is most hurtful. That’s the one most likely to elicit from me an angry reaction. Perhaps that’s why it is said: “The truth hurts.”

And then there is the hurt I inflict on others – the things I say to or about people that is unkind, not entirely true, or true but harshly stated.

There’s a lot of hurt in the world. Injustice leaves a swath of hurting people, and so does prejudice, and privilege when it is distributed inequitably. We have learned that the wounds of war occur in ways that damage the body and hurt the soul.

Some say to move on – get over your hurt and live your life. Others say you have to face it, feel it, and perhaps get help to get past it.

Remember that one of the dangers of hurt left untended is that it will rise up and hurt someone else.

May you be healed of hurt today and live the day without hurting someone else.

A blessed Tuesday.

Mark Demers

Want to talk about sex, politics, spirituality? So do I. I grew up in a religious home in the 1950’s and 1960’s. Our country was reeling from assassinations and the devastation of the Viet Nam War. Looking for something beautiful, I got a degree in music, married the love of my life and had children. Looking for God, I then went to seminary. Looking for something that might transform the world, I became a local church pastor. Now, I’m always looking for people who want to talk about important things. I cherish conversations with emerging leaders, people who are antsy to try an idea they believe would change the world for the better. I’d would love to hear from you.